Lets start by explaining what anxiety is, because there is a lot of confusion surrounding this. People think anxiety is “being stressed” or just “worrying about something and overthinking it” Sure, these definitely fall under anxiety, but it so much more than that… Anxiety is a crippling feeling of fear and worry like something TERRIBLE is about to happen and you just can’t explain the feeling that your chest can feel tight sometimes. It’s a hole you get sucked in and it feels impossible to get out of your mind, because your mind is telling you all the logical reasons as to why this thing or things will happen to you. At the same time, your mind is thinking of the most irrational ways as to how something terrible is going to happen, because there were times when things unexpectedly happened out of nowhere. Sometimes you even allow yourself to feel that way to prepare yourself for the storm in your head.
Anxiety is a mental illness and it is very real. Your mind and your heart is RACING that you question every thing around you.. EVERYTHING… Some people experience anxiety differently, like uncontrollable shaking, crying real and painful tears with/without reason, feeling nauseous, breaking out in rash, panic attacks, insomnia, picking up fights, flashbacks, irritatabilty and/or A LOT of ‘what ifs’ and ‘I don’t know.’ I will go through a few things that help ME control it, and it may help you. If you’re anxiety is completely out of control, please see a professional because it hinders your day-to-day activity. And remember, you’re not alone in this.. A LOT of people have anxiety, even celebrities like Lili Reinhart, Ashley Benson, Emma Stone and Oprah Winfrey have revealed their struggles with anxiety. Please read the list below and see what works for you. Feel free to ask me any questions. If you want to talk to someone, comment down or find the ‘Contact’ button on my profile.
How Do I Deal With Anxiety?
- I have a conversation with myself – I talk to myself like I would talk to a friend, you can do it between yourself OR you can say it outloud, totally up to you, I tell myself “Okay, I am feeling this way right now and ignoring it won’t solve the problem. There is not much to do about it right now, All I have to do is to stay calm and just breath.”
- Open mindness to others– LET your friends tell you why those reasons you’re thinking about are irrelevent and the reasons why nothing bad will happen. Really allow yourself to listen, otherwise that anxiety ego will take over and win. Don’t let that enemy in there win. It’s one of the many recurring thoughts we have daily, and it is OKAY to feel that way sometimes, just listen to people this one time.
- 4 Fold Breath – I know how clichee this sounds, but we really do forget to breath sometimes. So try this method that I learned from a YouTube Channel – Law of Attraction Solutions – Take a deep breath for 4 seconds, hold it for 4 seconds, breath out for 4 seconds and empty your minds for JUST 4 seconds. If 4 seconds is a lot, practice 2 seconds, then do it for longer when you can. I say repeat this method for 5 to 10 minutes. if you need to do it for longer (20-30 minutes) then by all means do so. Trust me, it helps. Studies have proven that this increases the supply of oxygen to your brain to promote a state of calmness. Just focus on your breathing for those 5-30 minutes. It takes practice, but it REALLY works.
- Mindfulness – This is a technique used to bring you back to the present and that is done by bringing your attention to your 5 senses. Lets say you’re in your bedroom right now, laying in bed. Here is what you do:
– Ask yourself, what am I seeing? Identify and point out everything you see
– Ask yourself, what am I hearing? The fan? A car outside? your breathing?
– Ask yourself, what am I feeling? So feeling is what you’re touching, your body is touching the bed because you’re laying down. Your head is on the pillow, your arms are on the side of the bed and let yourself drift away.
– Ask yourself, what am I smelling? Food in the room? scent of a spray? perfume on your top?
– Ask yourself, what do I taste? What taste is in your mouth right now? After taste of food? Just brushed your teeth? The taste of nothing?
Do it one by one and when you are able to do them each, try to recognise all of your 5 senses at the same time. Take as much time as you need, it’s okay. If you want to close your eyes and do the other 4 senses, go for it.
- CHANGE THE ATMOSPHERE: I immediately LEAVE the house because I refuse to be a slave to those thoughts. I refuse to fall in that hole and I choose to be in control because I can. If I can do it, so can you. Simply say ‘NO’ and change the atmosphere, go somewhere – a cafe, to a park, go for a walk with earphones on, to a friend’s place (I hope you ask them first before barging in) or just hop in the shower then make yourself a hot chocolate and sit in the balcony or open the window and stand in front of it.
- Professional Help: Counselling, therapy, CBT or seeing a psychologist is REALLY helpful. Some might prescribe you with medications, some won’t. Remember that you’re not forced to do anything and you won’t lose anything if you try. If you don’t try, you might lose out on a tool that could have helped you. There are online therapists and face-to-face.
- Exercise: There are various forms of exercises that help with releasing that tension, you just have to find one that works for you. Walking, going for a run, yoga, cardio, boxing, swimming, etc.. Movement does help release that energy from your body and with some people, it helps empty their mind.
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